Thoughts re. Questions from the Shadows

I loved the discussion generated by my post on 'Questions from the Shadows'.

Lisa, Queenheroical, thank you for what you shared.

I've put some further thought into it and I think I've got it. Well, at least the big picture answer. It's the actual execution that gets tricky.

As per my usual self, I think I was taking too much responsibility for the job of 'reaching' those who are hurting. The brokenness of people all around me still really hurts.

That sounds so patronizing, and as far as I can plumb my motives, that's not how I intend it. It's just that I've recently found such huge freedom in realizing that God's huge, amazing love for me has nothing to do with how good I am.

To use C.S. Lewis' term from his Cosmic Trilogy series, I'm just coming to terms with how bent we all are.

Up until recently, I lived under the illusion that things like pornography addiction, lying, adultery etc. were all deviations from what normal people do. That most people live a good life by default. But now I'm starting to see these things invade the lives of those around me and I'm realizing the biblical truth that brokenness is our natural state. That outside of the intervention of the Holy Spirit into our lives we're not capable of wholeness.

And because I've lived most of my life as a Christian who really didn't get the idea that God really, really likes me, I realize that there are a ton of people out there who don't know that either. Christians and non-Christians.

I'm also starting to understand that this could be the root of a lot of what's wrong in the world. I mean, even many secular psychologists will tell you that the number one need of people is to be loved unconditionally.

And I know, for me, knowing that God loves me that hard has started to change how I see others. Because if His love for me isn't based on how good I am (or not!) then I realize how rich in love I am and can start giving that away to others.

But then, the practicalities of how to do this get in the way.

However.... (here comes the simplistic answer) :

I believe that God brings people into our lives for a reason, a time and a season. Our job is to love Him, learn to love others like He does, be real about where we are and be with the ones He brings into our lives in that reality too.

I'm so dense.

Relationship is central to everything God does and wants for us. Duh!

Jesus said it himself! "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments." (Matthew 22:37-40)

Heck, that's why Jesus died for us. He wanted to hang out with us again, like He did with Adam and Eve in the garden. He wants to be with us. He can have a relationship with me that He can't have with anyone else. Same for you. Same for each and every human being on earth.

As a mom I can totally see that now that I have more than one kid. Before I had Katiana, I was worried that I couldn't love a second baby as intensely as I love my Tasia. Now I know that kind of love isn't divided. I have a unique relationship with both of my girls. One could never replace the other. And if I, an imperfect human, am capable of that kind of love, imagine how much love our Heavenly Father has for us.

And as we realize that God has that kind of love for us, we start to see how amazingly precious each and every human being is. He cares! Our brokenness hurts Him. And wonder of wonders, He lets us be a part of each others' healing too.


Like I said before, I realize the practicalities of how to live this out in daily life aren't always as easily explained. But I really think this is the answer to my questions.


  1. I really love how you framed all of that, that's big and so well put. Thank you for allowing me to partake in a discussion so very meaty. Can I adopt your answer as my own? It sums so many things up so well. You always remind me of the depth of God's love for us so poignantly. I am so glad I have access to a you in my life. Love you Frass. -- Krina

  2. Wow. It's amazing how quickly we forget God's work in our lives (i'm an israelite in the desert i think) I now realize that I attempted to answer a question based on human feelings and such instead of remembering that I feel the same love and longing for hurting people when I know God's love for me. Thanks for the reminder. Lisa

  3. Thanks you two. Let's do some more of this kind of discussion.

    And if you got anything that blessed you (as I did too!) it's only what He's taught me. I can't take much credit for it. :)

  4. And He's a gentle Gardener. Fiercely loving, reckless, lavish and patient. He won't let us alone, nor let us leave others alone.


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