Thoughts on the Pressure to Conform

I'm not sure how articulate I'm going to be, but I've had a few thoughts rolling around in this head o' mine lately that I thought I'd throw out for discussion.

Maybe it's because I've pretty much been a 'good girl' my whole life, but I've spent a great deal of energy trying to be who I am without trying to stand out too much. As a result, the first impression people have of me is often way off the mark.

In the last couple of years - this last year especially - I've started to give less weight to what others think about my choices, and more to what I like and don't like.

Wow, this is starting to sound deep and navel-gazish. I'll stop now because what I really want to talk about is personal style.

Didn't see that one coming did you?

So here we go...

What is so weird about dying your hair completely pink if you really like it? What's wrong with wearing something just because you like it and it looks good on you, not just because it's in style? What is so-called age-appropriate style? Why do we insist on conforming to trends? I mean the people who create them aren't exactly conformists themselves?

It seems there is a not-so-subtle societal pressure that says you are allowed to be different, but not too different. Why? Christians seem to be particularly bad about this. And I think this goes beyond just appearance.

I've heard the arguments that say that if you appear a certain way, people are more likely prejudge you and that could hurt your witness, relationships, corporate image etc. But why? In my experience, one of the best ways to dispel a stereotype is to actually get to know someone you're pre-judging. The way I see it, the more individual we are in our personal expression, the more likely people are going to learn that you can't really stereotype anyone.

Besides, we'd have a lot more fun! ;)


  1. Yeah Yeah! Hear Hear! If you aren't showing too much skin then do what you want I say. Oh yeah, i'll send you the links to those clothes I like.


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